Reflections on Marriage and Relationships

In the last six months I have found myself spending a great deal of time thinking and talking with friends about the nature of marriage. Part of this was because I was involved in two Bible studies which covers Genesis 2, and Ephesians 5, two … “Reflections on Marriage and Relationships”

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Relational Openness and Delightful Surprises

Everyone I know want to opportunity to choose their long term relationships, be it coworkers, friends, or spouse which is very understandable. I have notice that this desire extends to the more transitory, day to day interactions. Most of us have a tendency to orient … “Relational Openness and Delightful Surprises”

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transform common regrets into commands for life

In the last  month or so I have repeatedly seen a list of the 5 most common regrets a hospice nurse has heard people express at the end of their lives. It’s worth noting that there were two regrets absence from the list “I wish I … “transform common regrets into commands for life”

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Three Recommended Books on Dating

Seems like I have been talking with a number of younger folks who are figuring out what “Christian” dating means. This may, or may not be connected to our young adult fellowship being in the middle of a series which is looking at relationships which … “Three Recommended Books on Dating”

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Myers Briggs Useful, But Love Rules

I was first introduced to Myers Briggs in 1981 when I read the book Please Understand Me. I did the sorter and found myself classified as an ENFJ. The rest of this posting assumes you know something about Myers-Briggs. If you don’t, I would recommend … “Myers Briggs Useful, But Love Rules”

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The Value of Vulnerability

Recently, a number of people have expressed appreciation for my willingness to be “real” about life, to be vulnerable. I have had had two reactions to this feedback. On the one hand, I want to say “Of course, there is no other rational way to … “The Value of Vulnerability”

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27+ Years of Blessing

Twenty seven years ago Libby and I were married in a school’s multi-purpose room with our friends and family looking on. It was a stressful but happy day. The morning was spent moving Libby’s belongings from the room she had been sharing with a friend … “27+ Years of Blessing”

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Being Uncomfortable, Student and Teacher

I would notice The Courage to Teach by Parker Palmer every time I visited my favorite bookstore. I didn’t picked it up… I am not a teacher. In my mind, teachers are those brave souls who stands in front of students in a school, or … “Being Uncomfortable, Student and Teacher”

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Expanding Music Listening Options – Spotify Cool

Earlier I wrote a bit about how I am being a bit more intentional in what I am listening to… but I still like variety. I discover new music the old fashion way: recommendations from friends or reviews in magazines like Paste. When I learn … “Expanding Music Listening Options – Spotify Cool”

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Unemployed. Yeah!

In June I left Stanford and joined Simply Hired. It was a great move for me.  I was going to be leading three teams: big data, service/ops engineering, and IT.  Two of these areas I know well, the third, big data I had some background, … “Unemployed. Yeah!”

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Exercise and Modern Society

In the last few years I have not been taking care of myself.  Libby was often needing to go to treatment or a doctor’s appointment several times each week.  Adding one more trip seemed too much, so I just never got around to scheduling appointments … “Exercise and Modern Society”

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Romans 8 and Christmas Dinner

In the last couple of weeks I have been thinking a lot about the Bible’s teaching about how we, as Christians are called to live.  I have spent a good bit of time looking at Romans 5-8.  At the core of this passage is our … “Romans 8 and Christmas Dinner”

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Hospitality

A month or so ago, I learned that there were several homeless people who attend my church, PBC.  I was bowled over by this.  Not that people are homeless.  I know this is a reality.  What surprised me was that we had people who were … “Hospitality”

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Gamification of Life

Over the last few years I seen a growing interest in gamification of life.  There is part of me that wants to say the whole idea was silly.  Who needs their real life to be turned into a video game where you are accumulating points … “Gamification of Life”

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Meeting God in the Empty Place – Turning Loneliness to Solitude

Libby and I used to talk nearly every night.  Often for a couple of hours. The topics varied greatly: basic logistical issues, smoothing over relational friction, concerns weighing on our hearts, big ideas, silly dreams.  Honestly the topics almost didn’t matter, it was having someone … “Meeting God in the Empty Place – Turning Loneliness to Solitude”

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Minimalism & Simplicity

My father taught me the value of simplicity. He didn’t need to update an item if it was still working. He didn’t need to purchase something to impress others. Dad was suspicious of people who attacked problems with complicated solutions.  Complex solutions typically demonstrated that … “Minimalism & Simplicity”

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The Value and Cost of Variety

I like variety.  This shows up in  in the food I eat, the music I listen to, the books I read.  I enjoy when my world expands, to have new and different experiences. I believe there is a lot of good in this, and yet, … “The Value and Cost of Variety”

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Amplifiers

I think the very best amplifiers are like wire with gain. That is, they add or take away nothing from the sound quality. They just boast the signal enough to drive the speakers. An amplifier that does this requires the source and speakers to be … “Amplifiers”

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Libby home with the Lord now

Early this morning Libby went home to be with the Lord.  As in life, she was tenacious in her passing.  It was peaceful, but she fought to stay with us as long as she could.  We already miss her terribly, but are so glad that … “Libby home with the Lord now”

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Last hours for Libby?

Gaye, our primary hospice nurse stopped by today, even though it’s her day off. She believes that Libby is in her last hours based breathing patterns and several other indicators. We have been jumping between being unspeakable sad, in a numb disbelief, and brief periods … “Last hours for Libby?”

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