For numerous years the Darwin Awards have documented the amazing stupidity of some people. I know many people who like to read these stories and laugh and cry at the sheer stupidity reported. Why do so many of us seem to like the Darwin Awards? I wonder … “Darwin Awards… Maybe We are Stupid Too.”
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The following was written as a companion to a teaching series about dating at PBC’s Young Adult Fellowship. While this post specifically addresses dating relationships, the core principle is equally applicable to platonic friendships or relationships with coworkers. I have had countless conversations over the … “Attitudes & Dating”
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As I mentioned in earlier postings, you shouldn’t expect to find someone who is a perfect compliment for you, someone who is perfectly mature. Why? Because both you are a work in progress. Neither of you will be fully formed and “perfect”. So it’s pointless … “On the Same Spiritual Journey”
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In my previous posts I have suggested that marriage was designed to provide companionship in the context of a committed relationship where both parties choose to sacrificially love the other. The fuel for these sorts of relationships is a bit different from our popular culture’s … “Romance & Intimacy”
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One could write a whole book, and many have, about what makes a good marriage. Rather than trying to make an exhaustive list, I am going to highlight just three things. I believe if these three areas are attended to, a marriage will ultimately succeed, … “What Makes a Good Marriage?”
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Let me start out and say something that I think is obvious but seems to be questioned these days. Marriage is good! For those who believe in the Bible, the argument is pretty easy to make, at least superfluously. God created marriage. God declared marriage good. … “Blessings of Marriage And Singleness”
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In the last six months I have found myself spending a great deal of time thinking and talking with friends about the nature of marriage. Part of this was because I was involved in two Bible studies which covers Genesis 2, and Ephesians 5, two … “Reflections on Marriage and Relationships”
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Everyone I know want to opportunity to choose their long term relationships, be it coworkers, friends, or spouse which is very understandable. I have notice that this desire extends to the more transitory, day to day interactions. Most of us have a tendency to orient … “Relational Openness and Delightful Surprises”
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In the last month or so I have repeatedly seen a list of the 5 most common regrets a hospice nurse has heard people express at the end of their lives. It’s worth noting that there were two regrets absence from the list “I wish I … “transform common regrets into commands for life”
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Some books I would recommend to people who are interesting in how God, the person who created marriage in the first place designed it to work, and how we enter into marriage in our modern society (dating). This post was original made in 2012. Some … “Four Recommended Books on Dating”
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I was first introduced to Myers Briggs in 1981 when I read the book Please Understand Me. I did the sorter and found myself classified as an ENFJ. The rest of this posting assumes you know something about Myers-Briggs. If you don’t, I would recommend … “Myers Briggs Useful, But Love Rules”
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Recently, a number of people have expressed appreciation for my willingness to be “real” about life, to be vulnerable. I have had had two reactions to this feedback. On the one hand, I want to say “Of course, there is no other rational way to … “The Value of Vulnerability”
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Twenty seven years ago Libby and I were married in a school’s multi-purpose room with our friends and family looking on. It was a stressful but happy day. The morning was spent moving Libby’s belongings from the room she had been sharing with a friend … “27+ Years of Blessing”
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I would notice The Courage to Teach by Parker Palmer every time I visited my favorite bookstore. I didn’t picked it up… I am not a teacher. In my mind, teachers are those brave souls who stands in front of students in a school, or … “Being Uncomfortable, Student and Teacher”
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Earlier I wrote a bit about how I am being a bit more intentional in what I am listening to… but I still like variety. I discover new music the old fashion way: recommendations from friends or reviews in magazines like Paste. When I learn … “Expanding Music Listening Options – Spotify Cool”
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In June I left Stanford and joined Simply Hired. It was a great move for me. I was going to be leading three teams: big data, service/ops engineering, and IT. Two of these areas I know well, the third, big data I had some background, … “Unemployed. Yeah!”
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In the last few years I have not been taking care of myself. Libby was often needing to go to treatment or a doctor’s appointment several times each week. Adding one more trip seemed too much, so I just never got around to scheduling appointments … “Exercise and Modern Society”
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In the last couple of weeks I have been thinking a lot about the Bible’s teaching about how we, as Christians are called to live. I have spent a good bit of time looking at Romans 5-8. At the core of this passage is our … “Romans 8 and Christmas Dinner”
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A month or so ago, I learned that there were several homeless people who attend my church, PBC. I was bowled over by this. Not that people are homeless. I know this is a reality. What surprised me was that we had people who were … “Hospitality”
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Over the last few years I seen a growing interest in gamification of life. There is part of me that wants to say the whole idea was silly. Who needs their real life to be turned into a video game where you are accumulating points … “Gamification of Life”
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